Every fat person lives in something I like to call a fat-box. Sadly, most weight-challenged people don't know it exists. And they pay a massive price in weight gain and low self-esteem. I can help you break out of your fat-box.
If you want to be forever thin, you need detailed information about your own fat-box, plus the proper tools for breaking out of it. The information below has worked for me (65-pound fat loss) and for many thousands of weight-challenged individuals. It will work for you too.
Fat-boxes are made up of attitudes, beliefs and old habits formed in childhood. They subtly and powerfully shape our bodies, our self-image and the way we relate to food and life in general.
Most weight-challenged people remain trapped in the gain/lose/gain cycle because they are unaware of this fact. Therefore, the issue is not whether a fat-box controls your weight but whether or not you will confront and break out of it.
First, identify the contents of your fat-box. Answer the following:
1. Who wants you to stay fat? Most weight-challenged people are surrounded by family and friends who "enable" their bad eating habits and weight gain.
2. How does staying overweight serve or protect you? From life, sex, your personal power, men/women, being visible, etc.
3. How has being overweight defined your personality, your relationships and your self-expression?
4. What would you do with your mind, your emotions, and your life if you were not constantly focused on food and fat?
Now, break out of your fat-box:
1. Imagine what you will look like when you drop all that weight. Write a description and place it on your fridge.
2. Imagine that you have all the power you need to face life as it is. How will this change your behavior?
3. Write a letter to the people who want you to stay fat. Tell them that you are breaking out of your fat-box and that they no longer have any say in who or what you are. Do not mail it. Read it out loud to yourself every day for 30 days. This is an extremely powerful exercise. Take the risk of feeling foolish and do it!
To be successful at breaking out of the fat-box you will need courage to face some fears. Most weight-challenged individuals are deeply attached to being overweight and discover great resistance when they get close to their ideal weight. Your task is to refuse to attack yourself or decide that you lack will power.
The problem is not your will but your deep-seated attitudes about who you are and can be. The solution is in learning to create a new image of you and your possibilities that is not defined by your old programs. With some work you will be successful at breaking out and being forever thin.